I finally begged him to "Babe, let go" - it was killing me watching him suffer.
There never has been - not before him, not after him.
I am coming around to the conclusion that I don't need them in my life either to have a satisfactory, full life.
I have not missed the snide belittlement's or the stress - I have been ENJOYING THE PEACE.
So, if these people don’t want to spend time with me, I am okay with that.