Wedding Song - God Knew That I Needed You

Friday, December 23, 2022

MR. ICE PAID A VISIT ~Shabbat Eve

‘Mister White Christmas’ song:

For a few weeks, I’ve joked off and on about Mr. Complication being put on ice … but today he really was put on ice: the roads here are all a solid sheet of ice – it is not {"the worst anyone has ever seen here!"}, but it is pretty bad. I’ve seen worst ice storms in this neck of the woods, but it is best to stay home if you can πŸ˜‰

That said, when I woke up this morning with ice on the street … and chicken soup running through my thoughts, and I figured Holland could stop in for a bowl of hot soup if he was out and about. He lives 2 steep hills away, so I wasn't sure if he'd risk the drive into town or not, for anything. Still, I sent the invite so we could visit, and he could sample some more of my cooking if he was in town.

Morning text ...

I also returned a call David left on my phone around midnight last night: he’d been scrolling through his FB newsfeed and happened upon my upcoming wedding post – he’s like a big brother to me; he was curious and more than a little surprised. Me: “So, I see I missed your call … what’s up?” David: “Yeah; I was looking through my FB newsfeed and I see that Valeria Hargand is getting married (Uh-oh – he actually used my birth Name instead of Valerie), what the hell, Val! Who is this guy - what's his Name? Last time we talked, you said you had sworn off marriage. I’m kinda surprised, here.” Me - laughing: “I’m surprised too; believe you, me! The marriage may seem fast – and it is, but we’ve known each other for 15 months; so, it’s really not ‘that fast’. He really is a nice guy. You would approve. Bob would approve. This is a good match; he checks all the boxes. Bob was my {IT} Man: I never thought I’d ever love anyone but Bob … but I do; and I’m kinda surprised, too.” And then David listened while I talked about Holland. And he gave some encouragement, and big brother instructions πŸ˜‰

I’m so lucky to have good people in my life, who love me in good ways.

Last year I was upset that I would be stuck in Longview for the rest of my life; and this year I am thankful that Elohim put on a stop on my plans so His Plan for my life could unfold. Last year I was bummed because I could not be where I wanted to be living – and this year I am looking forward to getting married, and staying put 😊

With a smile on my face, I got the soup ready to go …

==Kosher Chicken In The Pot ~serves 4

I make this meal in my crockpot – I just dump everything in, and plug the pot into the wall socket πŸ˜‰

I also used chopped chicken breasts, and Christmassy noodles this year in place of the potatoes; I didn’t have any spuds on hand, the roads were a solid sheet of ice … and the noodles were ‘festive’ 😊

Festive bowtie noodles.

I have made this soup many times over the decades; it is a great soup to enjoy on days like today.

1 4-pound Chicken, cut into 8 pieces (or 8 flash-frozen chicken breasts, chopped like stew meat) * Kosher Salt & freshly ground Black Pepper, to taste * ¼ cup extra-virgin Olive Oil * 12-ounces dark Beer * 1 Onion, quartered * 8 whole cloves of Garlic * 2 cups green Cabbage * 3 large Carrots, peeled and cut in pieces * 4 medium Yellow Potatoes, quartered or 12 ct. new potatoes, whole (or 2 ounces bow-tie noodles) * 2 cups Chicken broth * ½ cup Parsley, chopped

Place all the ingredients EXCEPT NOODLES in a crockpot, set on LOW for 5½ hours; add noodles for last ½ hour. Serve and enjoy 😊

Kosher Chicken in the Pot Soup. Easy-peasy supper.

While the soup was cooking, I checked my FB Page, then started getting ready for Holland’s arrival …

All brown palette today – ‘Gentle’ browline, ‘Gold-brown’ eyelid color & liners, & ‘Focus’ eyelid accent; Lash Primer, “Glam Brown’ Mascara, ‘Soft Brown’ Eyebrow Gel; ‘Coral Ember’ CrΓ¨me blush; Tinted Lip Balm & ‘Candy Cane’ Chapstick.
I used the lash primer today because the eye makeup is all browns - I wanted to plump up my lashes, so they stand out ;-)
Bauble bracelet.

And as I was stirring the soup, a text came in:

Afternoon text ...

Rats! I’m thinking Christmas Supper in Kelso will be called off, too, if the icy rain continues.

I consoled myself with watching the chickadees at the birdfeeder … and the neighborhood kids sneaker-skate down the icy streets.

And after supper, I lit the Hanukkah candles, and enjoyed a glass of red wine. Old Man Winter is not going to ruin what’s left of my day; I'm going to relax and play text-tag with Holland πŸ˜‰

Thursday, December 22, 2022

POT ROAST FOR 2

I was craving corn on the cob when I woke up this morning … so, after getting ready to meet the day, when I grabbed them from the freezer, I also pulled a pot roast (half a regular roast because that is ‘widow size’ and leftovers for a sandwich πŸ˜‰).

Sparkly 'Lt. Lilac' eyebrow, 'Plum' eyelid, 'Brown' liners & glittery ‘Lionheart’ accent lid color; 'Deep Violet' Mascara; & 'Nude Burn' Creme blush.
'Auburn' Eyebrow Gel & ‘Primrose Lipstick.
Glittery 'Sparked' Nail Polish, and a wooden bead & painted driftwood bits bracelet.
My old, comfortable, worn moccasins felt good on my feet today.

As I was putting the lid on the crockpot, Holland called and asked: "How does 2 months from now, sound to you?"

From that 1 question, I'm thinking February will be the "I DO" month; as soon as that ring is paid for – he wants it on my finger asap.

I told yu'all my life happens FAST: the men in my life just want me in theirs as soon as the wedding rings are seen, sized, and bought.

My 1st fast marriage gave me 44 wonderful years – there's every reason to think my 2nd fast marriage will give me a good run of wonderful memories, too.

Obviously, I agreed to wear their rings and their Name, so both of the men in my life were/are "one hell of a man" ;-)

Johnny Paycheck – ‘Someone To Give My Love To’ song: (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KXV3yR80d5w)

Tracy Byrd – ‘For Me, It’s You’ song: (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=REQky5WAMwY)

Before we ended the chit-chat, I invited him to join me for supper; he might as well sample my cooking now, before the deal is sealed πŸ˜‰

Pot Roast Supper for 2.

I haven’t cooked for a man in four years … but apparently the meal passed inspection because nothing was wasted 😊

Holland left an hour after supper though, because snow and freezing rain is in the forecast tonight; and through the weekend – and he lives on a hill that should see some of that prediction: but, he arrived an hour before supper was finished, and we spent time together; so, he didn’t eat and run πŸ˜‰

After, he texted to let me know he’d made it home without incident, I lit the Hanukkah candles. And after they burned down, I burned off the fatty pot roast with in-house exercises while waiting for the forecasted snow to fall here (if it actually falls in the lowlands).

Colossians ~Chapter 1/Thursday Bible Study

Before my laptop went on the fritz a couple weeks ago, we finished up the Book of Philippians. This Thursday we are starting the Book of Colossians 😊

Paul’s purpose in writing this epistle is to show that Christ is preeminent – first and foremost in anything and everything; and that the Christian’s life should reflect that priority.

Because Believer’s are rooted in Him. Alive in Him, hidden in Him, and completed in Him … it is utterly inconsistent for them to live life without putting Him first in their lives. Clothed in His love, with His peace ruling in their hearts, they are equipped to make Christ first in every area of their life.

The external testimony to the Pauline authorship of Colossians is ancient and consistent – and the internal evidence is also very good: it not only claims to be written by Paul (vv. 1:1, 23; and 4:18), but the personal details and close parallels with Ephesians and Philemon make the case even stronger.

Colossae was a minor city about 100 miles east of Ephesus in the region of the 7 Asian Churches of Revelation 1 – 3. Located in the fertile Lycus Valley by a mountain pass on the road from Ephesus to the East. Colossae once was a populous center of commerce, famous for its glossy black wool. By the time of Paul, it had been eclipsed by its neighboring cities, Laodicea and Hierapolis, and was on the decline.

New Testament Churches; Colossae

Apart from this epistle, Colossae exerted almost no influence on the early Church history.

It is evident from vvs. 1:4-8 & 2:1, that Paul never visited the Church at Colossae, which was founded by *Epaphras. On his third missionary journey, Paul devoted almost three years to an Asian ministry centered in Ephesus (Acts 19:10; 20:31), and Epaphras probably came to Christ during this timeframe – he carried the **Gospel to the cities in the Lycus Valley, and years later, came to visit Paul in his imprisonment (4:12, 13; & Philemon 23).

Epaphras’s visit and report about the conditions in Colossae prompted this epistle. Although the Colossians had not yet succumbed, an encroaching heresy was threatening the predominately ***gentile Colossian church.

Paul details the preeminence of Christ as “Lord of creation”, “Author of reconciliation”; He is the “basis for the Believer’s hope”, the “source of the Believer’s power for a New Life”, the “Believer’s Redeemer and Reconciler”, the “embodiment of full Deity”, “the Creator and Sustainer of all things”, the “Head of the Church”, the “Resurrected God-Man”, and the “all-sufficient Savior.”

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Colossians ~ Chapter 1/Thursday Bible Study

Introduction and Thanksgiving

“From Paul, an apostle of ****Yeshua Ha’Mashiach, by Elohim’s Will, and from Brother Timothy; to the *****saints at Colossae, our faithful brethren in Christ. Grace be to you, and peace, from #Elohim our Father and ##Lord, Jesus Christ. (vv. 1 – 2)

When we pray for you, we always thank Elohim, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, because of you. For we have heard about your faith in Christ Jesus, and about your love for all the fellow-Christians. We thank Elohim also for the hope that is stored up for you in ###Heaven. This you first heard about through the Gospel, which is the Word of Truth. The Gospel came to you, even as it is reaching out to the rest of the world. And it will bring forth fruit everywhere, just as it already has among you from the very day that you first heard it and came to know the truth about the grace of God. Since then, you have also learned the same from Epaphras, our beloved co-worker, who is an honest and faithful minister of Christ. It is he who has told us about your Christian love. (vv. 3 – 8)

Paul’s Seven-fold Prayer

We have, therefore, from the day that we first heard about you, never ceased to pray for you. We have asked that you may be filled with the knowledge of His Will and that you may have wisdom and spiritual understanding in every way. We pray, too, that your lives may be a credit to the Lord and pleasing to Him, and that you may be fruitful in every good work you take hold of and that you may increase in your knowledge of God. And we ask that you may receive strength for every task, drawn from His might and glory, and that you may hold out with patience and good cheer.

We give thanks to the Father for having made us fit to have a share in the light which is the inheritance of the saints. We thank Him for having rescued us from the powers of darkness, and giving us a place in the kingdom of His Beloved Son. And because though Him we have redemption, the forgiveness of sins, for this we are thankful. (vv. 9 – 14)

The Seven Superiorities of Christ

Christ is the image of the unseen God. He existed before creation began. For by Him everything was created, both in Heaven and on Earth; things visible and invisible, also thrones and dominions, principalities and powers – all things were created through Him and for Him. He existed before all things, and all things exist and hold together through Him. He is the head and the body, that is, the Church. He is the beginning of everything. He is also the Firstborn from among the dead and so He stands first in everything. It was the Father’s pleasure that all fullness should dwell in Him. (vv. 15 – 19)

The Reconciling Work of Christ

And, through Him, God would reconcile all things to Himself again, those here on Earth and those in Heaven, by making peace through the blood of His cross. You were at one time estranged (separated, apart) from Him. You were His enemies. You were busy doing evil. But you are now reconciled through the death of His body as a m an, so that you can stand before Him holy, without sin, and irreproachable (blameless, flawless, perfect, spotless, stainless). This reconciliation (reunion, bringing together) demands, of course, that you continue in the Faith – that you be stable (firm, constant, committed, settled, fixed) and steadfast (loyal, trusty, dependable, faithful, constant, devoted), and that you do not shift away from the Gospel hope that you have heard preached. It is the Gospel that was once proclaimed and is to be proclaimed to the whole creation under heaven, and I, Paul, have become one of His servants to do it. (vv. 20 – 23)

The Ministry of the Mystery

I find joy in my sufferings for your sake. In this way, in my own body, I undergo some of the trials of Christ; yet to come, for the sake of the Church, which is His Body. I am a minister in this Church. It was Elohim, Who appointed me to this office, and it was for your sakes. My task was to make the Word of God fully known. This Word was the mystery – or secret – that had been hidden from all the ages and generations of the past, but now is being revealed to the saints. It is God’s Will that this mystery shal be fully explained to all the nations in all its riches and glory. He is the One Whom we proclaim. We use all the wisdom we have. We warn everyone; we teach everyone, in order that we may present everyone mature in Christ Jesus. I am working for this end, using the strength I receive from him Who strengthens me with His might.” (vv. 24 – 29)

 

*Epaphras: One of Apostle Paul’s friends and co-workers, Epaphras was from Colossae, and founded the church in his home town. He was looked up to as a leader in the Church of Asia, and came to visit Paul in prison in Rome. Seized by the Romans, he was thrown into prison with Paul. Some of Paul’s deepest tributes are applied to Epaphras: “fellow prisoner”, and “faithful minister.” Colossians 1:7; 4:12; & Philemon 23

**Gospel = teaching or revelation of Christ.

***Gentile: a person who is not Jewish. The word stems from the Hebrew term ha-goyim, which means “the nations” … meaning nations of the world that were not Hebrew.

****Yeshua Ha’Mashiach: is Hebrew for “Jesus the Messiah”; the name Jesus is the Greek form of the Hebrew name Yeshua.

Christ (from the Hebrew word, Ha’Mashiach Χ™Χ©Χ•Χ’ Χ”ΧžΧ©Χ™Χ— & the Greek word, Christos/khris-tos) = The Anointed, Yeshua the Messiah, in both languages.

*****Saint = In its most basic sense, a saint is a “holy one,” someone who is set apart for Elohim’s special purposes. As a result, every follower of Yeshua Ha’Mashiach is a Saint. In most of his letters, the Apostle Paul refers to the recipients as saints, including the church at Corinth, where there were significant moral and theological problems! The New Covenant writers draw their use of the word saints (“holy ones”) from the Old Covenant (e.g., Exod 31:13; Lev 11:45, 19:2; Dan 7:18, 27). Particularly important is Exodus 19:5-6, where Elohim refers to Israel as “a kingdom of priests and a holy nation.” 1 Peter 2:9 applies this same language to believers: “you are a chosen race, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people for his own possession, that you may proclaim the excellencies of him who called you out of darkness into his marvelous light.”

#Elohim (Hebrew: אֱלֹΧ”ִים, romanized: ʾĚlōhΔ«m: [(eloˈ(h)im]) is a Hebrew word meaning "Gods – Father, Son, & Holy Spirit". Although the word is plural in form, in the Hebrew Bible it usually refers to a single deity “Behold, the Lord – the Lord is One”, particularly the God of Israel.

##Lord Jesus Christ (in Greek: Kyrios IΔ“sous Christos) = the most formal title for Jesus (Yeshua). It occurs often in the New Testament letters.

The word “Lord” has a wide range of uses; it can be a simple respectful “Sir” or a more formal, “Master.” But the New Testament also uses “Lord” of God. The word “Christ” is the anglicized form of the Greek word meaning “anointed one” or “Messiah.” “Lord Jesus Christ” reminds us that Jesus is both the promised Messiah and our God.

###Heaven: The Hebrews acknowledge three heavens – the atmosphere surrounding Earth; the firmament of outer space, in which the stars are placed; and the heaven of Heavens, or third heaven, which is he residence of Jehovah.

Among Christians, Heaven is the place where the omnipresent God of Gods dwells and manifests His supreme glory; this habitation of God is represented by the residence of angels and the blessed spirits of those who are rewarded eternal salvation.

 

**Philippians 4:  https://jeastofeden.blogspot.com/2022/11/philippians-chapter-4thursday-bible.html

Wednesday, December 21, 2022

LOVE IS IN THE AIR

Today is the first day of Winter.

I woke up this morning hoping that today would also be a day of positivity; so, I determined to be the first in line at the local Security Office, downtown. I did not want to be sitting for an hour (or longer) in an over-crowded room, and later be dealing with an irritable and stressed-out assistant.

I washed my hair, but didn’t style it – or mess around with makeup. My hair was flat, and my face was bare … but I was in and out of the office in under 20 minutes 😊

Elohim was merciful: nothing will change with my benefits when I remarry, and I don’t even have to change my last name on the check mailed to me. But, I think I will hyphenate it: keeping both my married names to honor both men who honor me with their love to me. Ditto for the Bank Account.

In a phone call, I discussed this with Holland after I left the building; and he’s okay with that decision. It makes sense – as a widow, I still need to have Bob’s Name and Social Security Number attached to me in case there are any more surprises like the Pension Plan I started receiving last year.

I’m glad Holland is an understanding man.

I’m glad Holland is a confident man and knows he is not in competition with Bob.

I’m glad I’m at this place in my life. I am a blessed, and highly favored woman. It is good to be a daughter of the Most-High God 😊

I didn’t know, until recently, why things always fell apart when I tried to move forward with my own understanding – and desired outcomes. Now, I know. And, as I told Holland earlier today, I am still surprised by the Plan Elohim had for me that kept me bound here until I took notice. I am amazed that I am getting a second chance to be loved unconditionally by a good man. I am startled to feel love towards another man πŸ˜‰

Holland just laughed, and said, “Well Baby, that’s because I love you; and I waited a long time for you. But, I’m glad I don’t have to wait any longer. As soon as I get things settled on my end, we’ll get married – BTW, what kind of wedding ring do you want?”

So, we talked rings; and things for another hour 😊

Holland told Jake a year ago that he was going to marry me – they were standing around talking, and Jake said, “It’s strange, but she feels like a sister to me. Like she’s family.” And Holland said, “That’s because she is your sister – and she’s going to be family: she doesn’t know it yet, but I’m going to marry her. Val is going to be my wife.”

Rascal Flatts – ‘Bless The Broken Road’ song: (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lZp6pmgbZyU)

Rascal Flatts – ‘I Won’t Let Go’ song: (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BW9zMSwKIdU)

When Holland and I first met, I was coming out of the widow-daze-fog … and I had some pretty strong opinions about life in general. Holland and Jake were fast friends, and they helped {ground} me (kinda like Bob used to): they listened – offered encouragement, and sometimes soft advice from a different outlook on the topic being discussed – they didn’t crowd me – they prayed with me and for me – they gave me unconditional friendship, and true agape love.

Holland watched me struggle … and come to terms with letting go (of the crippling love that kept me tied to Bob, and of some of my hard and fast opinions) – he listened to my words as my heart healed; he watched me grow in spite of myself.

He heard me pray with tears running down my face, after the Eden Valley Cemetery debacle: “Help me God! I don’t know how to unlove Bob – for so long Bob was my whole life. I know I have to cut my losses and move forward, but this letting go is hard!

I.don’t.know.how.to.not.love.Bob.” 

My “Chapter Closed” Eden Valley Cemetery Post: https://jeastofeden.blogspot.com/2022/08/chapter-closed.html

He said it hurt him to hear me hurting so bad. How could he complete with a strong and deep love like that? So, he kept his love for me to himself: until this November.

John Michael Montgomery – ‘I Can Love You Like That’ song: (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pS2zOqG1sIo)

John Michael Montgomery – ‘I Swear’ song: (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R3cxv0RYnMQ)

Things started coming together and falling into place when Holland was hospitalized; it scared me that he was so ill – that he could possibly die. I was panicked at the thought. I knew then, that he meant more to me than a “just a close friend”. He’d been flirting with me for a solid year; he flat out told me what he felt towards me … maybe it was time to stop running from it, and just let happen whatever would happen.

Celine Dion – ‘Because You Loved Me’ song: (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zpZkY47-cVI)

I’m a better person because of Bob’s love, in my other life – the life that died when Bob’s physical body died.

I’m also a better person unfolding in this New Life, because of Holland’s love.

My heart is big enough to hold all that love 😊

My new life will be enriched with Holland’s permanent presence in it. I’ll have love again. I’ll have roots again. I’ll have family again. I’ll have purpose and a sense of direction again.

Life will be sweet again.

And pictures will be taken, no matter how anyone looks or feels; pictures matter – and someday, those “NO! Don’t take that picture of me!” will be all that’s left to hang onto. Pictures matter.

Blake Shelton – ‘God Gave Me You’ song: (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uGXHWqlH_dc)

Kenny Chesney – ‘Me & You’ song: (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R3cxv0RYnMQ)

When this afternoon’s phone convo ended – and it was agreed I’d join Holland for his family’s Christmas Supper, Sunday evening, my heart was light and my soul was happy. Holland’s is really turning the heat up in his courtship dance, and his comments and questions to me made me think of this Blake Shelton song:

Blake Shelton – ‘Doin’ What She Likes’ song: (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=04WRI-0odjk)

That song cracks me up every time I listen to it πŸ˜‰

And before the convo ended, I said, “I love you too … don’t burn the house down trying to please me.”

I was laughing so hard thinking of the visuals of this song, that when I put the phone down and turned the ignition on, tears were running down my face 😊

Now, I’m going to light the Hanukkah candles, and later on watch Hallmark Christmas movies.

Love is in the air πŸ˜‰