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Tuesday, March 7, 2023

SHAKIN' ALL OVER ~Daytrip/Eden Valley Cemetery

We went for a drive yesterday afternoon - I'll be driving to Graysriver Friday to spend time with my sleuth sisters … and I wanted to show Holland where I'd be holed up for three hours before heading back home. While we were in the neighborhood, I also wanted to show him the Eden Valley Cemetery where our bodily remains will be when our spirits are eventually released: the plots are paid for, and Holland will be there too if and when that time comes before The Rapture. After that show and tell event, I'd drive us back home via Raymond-Pe Ell-& Vader. Vader is Holland's familial stomping grounds; but it's been a while since he's been over the KM, through Raymond, or thru Pe Ell. This daytrip would be fun :-)

I dressed casual (very casual), and got my face on …

Prep Kit … Sparkly 'Pearl' for eyebrow highlight; Glittery 'Illusion' for eyelid color; Sparkly 'Navy' for eyelid accent & upper-lower liner; 'Auburn' Eyebrow Gel; 'Glam Black' Mascara; & Neutre 'Emflamme' Gel Blush. 'Tinted Lip Balm' & 'Pink Quartz' Lipgloss.
Ready to roll …
Neal McCoy - 'The Shake' song:
(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NjXHfvgiNUc)

Then we gassed up at Baker's Corner, and stopped at Wal*Mart to buy a smaller cooler than the ones in the shed; we wanted to take some picnic stuff and didn't need the large coolers.

Small cooler; it's all we need for a daytrip.

There were snow patches along the KM, but the road was clear; so driving that way again Friday should be a snap 😉

When we got to Graysriver, I drove over the Covered Bridge Loop: I didn't think Holland has ever been there, so it was fun to show him something that I've enjoyed since my teen years. 

Holland did say later that he had never been over the Covered Bridge, so that was a fun {1st} :-)

We saw scads of Bald-headed Eagles - they were e.v.e.r.y.w.h.e.r.e., and Holland spotted them before I did.

Holland had never been to Eden Valley, either: another 1st.

What I saw at the cemetery had me shaking MAD.

Graysriver Covered Bridge Road ties into Barr Road-WA
Holland spotted these Bald-headed Eagles at Devil's Elbow - along the Altoona-Pillar Rock Road-WA
It was cold and windy; bare tree limbs & Eagle feathers were shaking all over.
3 more Eagles seen from Mattson Road, off Altoona- Pillar Rock Road.
Eden Valley Road & Eden Valley Cemetery; Eden Valley-WA
WTH! These are MY Shepherd Hooks & the floral arrangements I MADE for OUR PLOTS!

I was literally shaking all over when I saw the shepherd hooks with the flowers still in the memorial vases, with the flowers I had bought and arranged for our family plots still in them … stuck alongside headstones that were not Bob's Grandparent's - or Bob's Father!

I had been told by heather smalley, in August of last year, that "anything other than headstones were no longer allowed on gravesites"; the smalley's even removed the makers I had on our plot, and then told me I could not put them back up: a wrought iron stake to mark Bob's actual cremains placement, as well as flower arrangements I had made - as well as the shepherd hooks I had placed on Grandpa & Grandma Smalley & Bob Hargand Sr's gravesites.

And here we were faced with MY THINGS ON OTHER PEOPLE'S GRAVES. Obviously, the smalley's think it's perfectly okay to steal things off our plot and place them on others.

It's not only disrespectful, it's actually criminal.

Of all the freaking nerve!!

My '"Work A Miracle for Me Lord" Post: https://jeastofeden.blogspot.com/2022/08/work-miracle-for-me-lord-eden-valley.html

Holland last year - during that hellish period of my life with the hellish smalley clan, had listened to my prayer concerning this distressing situation, and offered to drive me to the cemetery to lift Bob's cremains and move them as heather smalley demanded; heather also called me a liar when I said the shepherd hooks I had bought had been stolen. I didn't know Holland at that time (other than his obvious flirting 😉) so I politely declined his offer and handled the situation the only way I knew: I mentally flipped heather the flying bird, and permanently closed that chapter of my life.

Follow-up Post - 'Chapter Closed' Post: https://jeastofeden.blogspot.com/2022/08/chapter-closed.html

It was a shock to see my hooks and memorial vases so brazenly showcased at other people's gravesites.

I only drove back there this afternoon to show Holland where our plot was, in case he has to ferry my cremains there some day - I am six years older than Holland, and there is a very real possiblity that if The Rapture continues to be delayed, he will have to ferry my cremains to the cemetery. There is room for Holland there, also, so we are planning towards that. The plots have been purchased and paid in full - one several years before Bob passed in 2018 … and I bought 3 following, in 2019. I basically bought up an entire plot block; I want Holland included in the Plot Block alongside me also, since I now carry his last name, and my New Name is hyphenated. New headstones will have to be ordered, rewritten, and replaced: Bob, Me, Holland.

Holland is a good man; he defused my anger and came up with a wonderful solution to the smalley small-mindedness. I cried with gratitude when my new husband told me how he intends to fix this cemetery mess concerning my first husband. Holland shows more respect for Bob than his family does and he never knew Bob (this new man of mine oozes love for me); and when he hugged me, my emotions were shakin' in a good way 😉 Elohim has been very generous in blessing me with Holland's love.

Which brings to mind something I read on a FB Page about love - it was put forward as "the 3 stages of love"; I have only ever experienced the 3rd stage, when it comes to love. I thank Elohim for protecting me, and only gifting my life with the best :-)

My first love crossed my path when I was 10 yo/he was 18 and didn't even know I was alive … he crossed my path again when I was 17 - and he was noticing me then 😍: we married 5 months later: none of the loves posted describe what we shared. We were married for 44 years before his physical death in December 2018. My second love is described in the 3rd Love posted below - and I married him this January 7th, 2023: I wasn't looking, and suddenly there he was. I am blessed beyond measure by this 2nd love of mine 

I do not recognized the 1st or 2nd {love} described. To me, love isn't infatuation; which always leads to disappointment: real, true, love is a wholesome knock-out-punch that hits hard and fast, and you are in deep before you even know you've been sucked in 😉 I've only known good love. Mindless lust, abuse of any kind, lies, betrayal, constant drama and painful damage (physical, emotional, or spiritual) is NOT "love". Just sayin' folks.

The 3rd Love is the ONLY Relationship Love I have ever been familiar with; thank Elohim! I've been blessed twice. Elohim has been very good to me.
Jack White - 'I'm Shakin' song:
(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XkcGuZHPbKk)
Snowy hills in the distance; Altoona-Pillar Rock Road-WA
Eagles were everywhere this afternoon; Altoona-Pillar Rock Road-WA

We drove home via the Raymond-Pe Ell Route, laughing and talking the whole way.

When we got to the pullout where I usually stop and park awhile, I was glad to see that it was clear of trash and burned out cars. I didn't like seeing that last year - and being a woman alone, I didn't stop there again until now. Now, I am not a woman alone. Now, the pullout is being monitored and kept clean again. So, we pulled in and ate our lunch. And we walked around a bit to work out the kinks. Walking back to the Highlander over the loose gravel, I could feel my body bouncing in various places, and started laughing when that song 'Shakin' All Over' went through my thoughts 😉

Labam-WA.
A logging Shovel tower:
(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=21n7l3oVeAQ)
Deer along the route …
20-mph speed limit crossover bridge; very tight width - very sharp corner.
Bouncing boobs as I walked; literally 'shaking all over'. LOL.
Johnny Kidd & The Pirates - 'Shakin' All Over' song: (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kM2WIi396Go)

As we passed through Vader, we decided to visit 'The Ranch' - the Redmill homestead. It's a nice country drive.

It's also high in the hills and was a bit on the chilly side while we were walking around the property: we were shaking all over before we got back to the Highlander.

'The Ranch' even has it's own road to it …

Driving up to our home later, I could see that Spring is showing itself despite the lingering snowy weather. I could also see that I need to stay home more this year, and tend to home chores 😉

My tiny Tete-a-tete Daffodils are blossoming; the cement rings need cleaning; or replacing.

Wednesday, March 1, 2023

LIVING PRAYERS

One Month Wedding Anniversary: (https://jeastofeden.blogspot.com/2023/02/one-month-wedding-anniversary.html)

I needed to go into town to the Bank to reorder more checks - I am down to my last batch; so I said to Holland that this would be a good time to go in with me and have his name added to my account. He has been reluctant to do this, but I explained how important it is that his name also be on my account. He finally agreed, so off we went. Next week sometime, it will be my turn to be added to his accounts.

We needed to go the DMV and get our Driver's Licenses updated, too. That was scheduled in.

I hoped we had everything we needed, as we left the carport - but I was pretty sure someone, somewhere, would burst that hopeful balloon.

We're a month and a half delayed in this process due to one reason or another, but the timing was right for today, so we tackled it- we'd get in, get it done, and get back home before noon so Holland could get back to work running a product down to ship to Europe ;-)

And miracles of miracles ... HOLLAND LET ME TAKE HIS PICTURE!

Holland & Me.

I explained to him the other day how important pictures are to me. I'm glad he's becoming agreeable. He says he looks retarded in pictures. That is not true, and I want him to become comfortable and allow the camera to become his friend, so I said to him after seeing a picture of his mother about a week ago while we were at his SIL's house: "Do you think your mother looked retarded in that picture, in Lana's house?" He, of course, said: "No." I replied, "Neither do I. You have your mother's face, Holland. She was a pretty woman. You are a handsome man. You would take good pictures if you'd just relax."

He is learning to relax; and I am happy with the results :-)

Getting legalities of Name & Address Changes in place ...

We talked all the way into town. We talked about different things.

Unintentional Hurt:
(https://jeastofeden.blogspot.com/2023/02/unintentional-hurt.html)

We laughed.

We held hands.

We were enjoying each other.

When Holland parked the Highlander in the Bank's parking lot, he squeezed my fingers, smiled, and said, "A happy wife is a happy life. I love you, Baby." And I smiled, too, and said: "Yep. You understood the concept before, but now you are beginning to understand the reality." And we both laughed.

It is an old joke with a bite of truth in it - and Holland knows that I also believe in meeting him halfway so he is also happy :-)

We will be spending the rest of our life together. We've got to meet each other in the middle.

Diamond Rio - 'Meet Me In The MIddle:
(https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qWKpCmPdGmM)

Once inside, we were ushered into a cubby room to get the process underway. It didn't go as smoothly as anticipated. We were told we needed to go to the DMV (which we had planned to do after the Bank) and come back with our updated licenses - mine with a Name Change, Holland's with Change Of Address; Holland also needed proof he was living with me (was that talking head serious???)

For Pete's sake :-(

So we backtracked back home and grabbed a bill with his name on it ... raced across town and into Kelso to get that documentation; and wasn't sure we'd be able to get back to the Bank before the doors closed. The DMV gets pretty busy after 'noon.

We got there before noon, got our tickets, was called forward in turbo time ... and was told we needed to show our Marriage License: the {real} one, not a photo copy.

UGH!

I knew someone would tell us we didn't have the required stuff needed.

So, back home we drove to retrieve that.

Everyone was determined to make this process as difficult as possible.

I was starting to stress a bit.

We'd been running back and forth, trying to make the legal beagles happy; we'd been burning up the road for hours with nothing to show for it but a burning of fuel >;-(

Holland had things that needed to get done at home, too; and the crazy people covering their asses (the asinine legalities are for them - not us) were making our day frazzled.

Holland took it all in stride: "Just relax, Baby. Nothing happens except God allows it to happen. Look at it this way - you're out of the house. You're taking a drive. We're spending time together. We're talking things over." And he squeezed my hand with every point he was making ;-)

I said, "I know. But you have that thing that needs to get done, and this running back and forth is eating time up."

He said, "This is important, too. I love you."

And I managed to snag another video of my handsome man without hearing him snarl about that :-)

Holland brings a calmness into every situation.

On our third trip back and forth over Industrial Way, Holland said, "It's okay, Baby. Think of it this way ... you're getting a 150-mile drive today without even leaving Longview; we're making a loop drive through Cowlitz County."

I had to laugh because it was true; absurdly true, but truth just the same.

But, in all honesty, if I had to get a 150-mile drive today, I'd rather have left Longview altogether ;-)

However, Elohim had other plans. And my handsome husband and I spent the day together :-)

Everything did eventually get done: Holland was added to my Bank Account - which is now OUR account. Our Licenses were updated: $40 was forked out for the updates (I had already paid $50+ in December '22 to renew the darned thing!).

Driver's Lc Name Change
Bank Name Change

And we are back on track with each other - that's the main thing.

Holland will do his work thing tomorrow while I'm spending time with Chrystal.

I sure hope March (tomorrow) comes in like a lamb because I'm really tired of dealing with the lion ;-)