There is a big difference between being alone and in feeling the feeling of being lonely. A ‘loner’ will prefer to spend time alone, but they rarely feel lonely - I can testify that this is truth.
Loners choose friendships carefully, and are wise about who they open their inner thoughts and feelings with … being friends with a loner is not something that everyone gets an invite to experience; if you have the opportunity, believe that you are a very special person.
Just because they prefer being alone most of the time doesn’t automatically mean that they are not open-minded and interested in new and exciting things. Loners are actually very adventurous - and many are real thrill-seekers. The fact that loners enjoy spending time alone to refuel their activity battery does not negate engaging in social activities: they just engage on their personal social schedule.
Loners have plenty of time to reflect and contemplate about life; this time alone allows them to develop a strong sense of themselves, which enables them to be more confident and comfortable with themselves … so they can brush off the opinions of others, and stay perfectly balanced emotionally and spiritually.
Because loner know themselves well, this introspective outlook enables them to maintain a positive attitude; and to keep a positive outlook on life concerning themselves … and life in general.
Loners have a deeper understanding of the value of time. Loners understand we all have a limited amount of time on this Earth, so it needs to be spent in the best way possible: efficiency and time management come easily to them as they are adept in choosing what is worth investing time in and what is not. Loners do not spin their wheels on time eating pursuits.
All that time spent alone gives loners a clear view of what inspires them; what works for them, as well as what doesn’t; they set healthy and strong boundaries, and work on maintaining them on a daily basis. These boundaries help them in decision-making, especially when it comes to deciding if something or someone is worth investing their energy on.
Holland and I are both loners - to differing degrees; but we enjoy each other's company, and on occasion open our lives to others ;-)
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