And to be honest; Bob's sister, Bonnie, immediately stepped in to help me pull Bob's funeral arrangements together. And his sister, Merry - and his brother Kerry, DID help me in those first months of severe grieving. BUT, I always felt like they were awkward around me. And they NEVER, at any time in 44 years, initiated reaching out: if I didn't contact them ... I did not hear from them. Even now. They never call to see how I am doing, or ask if I need help with anything. They never unconditionally loved me before Bob left for heaven - and they don't unconditionally love me now.
Bob's family never thought of me: they don't think of me now. After August, I will be persona non grata, as far as they are concerned.
And they still call - and INCLUDE ME IN THEIR LIFE.